Every Monday morning I get a motivational audio email from Dr. Kevin Elko. He is a motivational speaker for numerous college and pro sports teams. This is the one I received on Monday and I had to share it with you.
There was a little boy who was in 6th grade.
He was different. He did not exactly connect with the other kids, but he was wonderful kid. He had an amazing heart but the other kids did not really connect with him either.
He was not as popular as the rest of the other boys and girls.
He was leaving for school on Valentine’s Day morning and he was excited because he had a backpack full of Valentines for all of his friends. The mom thought to herself: “he is going to give out all of those valentines to all his friends but what if he doesn’t get any in return? What if no one gives him any Valentines???”
The mom knew he was not that popular and that he was a little different.
She thought to herself: “I will be here when he gets home with hot chocolate and cookies waiting for him to comfort him after school.”
At the end of the day she was eagerly anticipating his return, ready to scoop up the pieces of a broken heart. As the little boy walked into the home, he was speaking a in a rhythm, somewhat to himself but yet loud enough for someone to hear.
“Not a one….not a one……..not a one….”
The mom followed him back to the room and asked the boy what was wrong.
He looked at the mom and said “NOT A ONE……….I got every single kid in my class a Valentine and I didn’t forget a one….not a one.”
Lets look at the focus of this kid. There are 2 kinds of people in the world; those who give and those who take.
The takers eat better, but the givers sleep better.
For many of us, our friendships are kind of like the barter system; you give to me and I will then in turn give to you. This kind of friendship does not make you a bad person, it makes you a normal person.
Real kindness doesn’t care what you get. It’s about decision, and about intention. The kid left the house with a decision and an intention to give every child in his room something and he did not worry about what he received in return.
Ask yourself when you have done this, when have you given to someone in hopes that you will get something in return? I know I have. I do this with my wife all the time. Have you ever said anything like this before? (This is an actual scenario in my home).
“Maybe if I clean up the house real good she will notice and then she may not be mad if I go workout with the guys.”
I’m sure nothing like that has EVER played out in your mind.
Go today and have a plan for what you are going to give to someone and don’t worry about what you get back. Just go GIVE. When you come home at the end of the day look in the mirror and say….”not a one.”
QUESTION: What are you going to go give today and not expect anything in return?
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